What you resist, persists

Selina Iddon explores the theme of resistance through the story of Briar Rabbit, discussing the burden it brings and the freedom found in letting go. She reflects on embracing kindness and strength, especially during festive seasons, and concludes with a call for understanding.

Confidence - want more? (72)

Selina Iddon delves into the foundational aspects of mindset, emphasizing the importance of daily practice in building confidence. She examines the negative consequences of low confidence and how it affects our lives. The discussion shifts to the influence of others and strategies for rebuilding confidence. Aligning the subconscious with personal goals is highlighted as a crucial step in this process. Selina wraps up with closing thoughts, summarizing the key points, and leaves listeners with a message of kindness.

Get results by taking away, NOT adding more. (71)

Selina Iddon welcomes listeners back and introduces the concept of "more is less," focusing on understanding true confidence. She discusses identifying self-sabotage and the dangers of constantly seeking more. Using an analogy of height and self-worth, she explores the idea of removing protective layers to reveal authentic confidence. Drawing on Brian Tracy's philosophy, Selina emphasizes believing in one's potential. She encourages letting go of past memories and recognizing the changing nature of feelings. The episode concludes with the notion that fulfillment often comes from removing rather than adding, and wraps up with final thoughts and a farewell.

The danger of Empathy (70)

Selina Iddon delves into the differences between empathy and compassion, starting with a high court judge's experience. She explores the healing process and distinguishes between these concepts, highlighting the importance of compassion over empathy. The discussion covers how compassion, curiosity, and courage interplay, and warns against the unhealthy aspects of empathy. Selina illustrates empathy's pitfalls with a movie example and discusses avoiding responsibility. She advocates for shifting language from empathy to compassion and underscores the power of language in leadership. The episode concludes with insights on compassion leading to fulfillment, wrapped up with closing remarks.

The cost of Worry (69)

Selina Iddon begins by welcoming listeners and introduces the topic of managing worries. She guides the audience through the process of identifying and evaluating worries, emphasizing the use of impact and probability scales. Selina discusses how these tools can aid in regaining happiness and improving job performance. She highlights the significance of taking baby steps and the positive effects of sharing kindness. The episode provides practical strategies for overcoming worry and concludes with a focus on incremental progress and compassion.

How words affect your happiness (68)

Selina Iddon welcomes listeners to an exploration of the power of language in coaching and its evolution over time. She examines the impact of societal pressures and mental health on the transition from "need" to "want." The discussion extends to achieving happiness and fulfillment through the intelligent use of language. Selina introduces a language challenge focused on eliminating withdrawal words, encouraging a proactive mindset. The episode concludes with closing remarks and an invitation for listeners to share their experiences.

Fastest way to personally grow and succeed (67)

Selina Iddon begins with a warm welcome and introduces the concept of doing more to achieve goals. She emphasizes the importance of friends, coaches, and an outside perspective in personal growth. The discussion highlights the necessity of taking new actions for rapid development. Selina invites listeners to shift from multiplying tasks to adding meaningful actions, illustrating how kindness can have a multiplying effect. The episode concludes with closing remarks and a farewell.

How to use the word Always (66)

Selina Iddon begins by examining the impact of the word "always" and its role in shaping perceptions and highlighting red flags. She delves into the truth behind this seemingly innocuous word and its potential to lead to self-sabotage. By reframing "always," Selina offers strategies to overcome negative thought patterns. Practical examples are shared to encourage listeners to change their usage of the word, fostering a healthier mindset. The episode concludes with closing remarks and a reminder to spread kindness.

Perception of time (65)

Selina Iddon opens with a warm welcome and introduces the concept of time, emphasizing the importance of living in the moment. She highlights how investing time wisely contributes to a quality life and helps break cycles of regret. The discussion shifts to making a difference and finding joy in the time we have, underscoring the value of being of service to others. Selina stresses the importance of acknowledging oneself and spreading kindness, wrapping up with reflections on how these actions enrich our lives.

Swap these two words and Free yourself

Selina Iddon introduces the episode by delving into the power of self-description and the constraints imposed by labels. She explores the importance of understanding and embracing personal preferences, highlighting the joy that comes from doing what you truly enjoy. Selina encourages listeners to rethink fixed identities, promoting a dynamic approach to self-discovery and personal growth.

Do you overuse the word sorry? (63)

Selina Iddon opens the episode with a discussion on the word "sorry," prompting listeners to rethink its usage. She delves into the impact and psychology behind frequent apologies, exploring how they can undermine self-confidence and communication. The episode provides training on using apologies effectively, ensuring they carry genuine meaning and intention. Selina emphasizes the importance of honoring the word "sorry," encouraging a mindful approach to its use. The episode concludes with reflections on maintaining the integrity of apologies and fostering healthier interactions.

Being Driven - good or bad? (62)

Selina Iddon opens the episode by discussing the benefits and pitfalls of being driven, focusing on the importance of choosing the right goals. She emphasizes the need to build a solid foundation for success by identifying true motivations. The conversation shifts to achieving goals with this foundation, highlighting the joy found in contributing to others. Selina encourages listeners to perform a self-check on their motivations to ensure alignment with their goals. The episode concludes with closing remarks, summarizing the key insights shared.

Ego vs Contribution (61)

Selina Iddon welcomes listeners back and delves into the intricate relationship between communication, ego, and the impact of language. She explores the role of leadership in empowering others and supporting their choices, highlighting the importance of direct communication paired with kindness. The episode underscores how effective communication can influence personal and professional relationships positively. Selina wraps up with closing remarks, summarizing the key insights from the discussion.

Passion Payoff (60)

Selina Iddon introduces the episode by discussing the transformative power of passion. She guides listeners in identifying and acting on what truly matters to them, addressing feelings of being stuck and offering strategies for utilizing time effectively for self-improvement. Selina emphasizes the importance of recognizing one's potential to become an extraordinary individual. She poses questions to help identify personal passions and suggests actionable steps for improvement. The episode is enriched with personal anecdotes and concludes with encouragement to spread kindness.

Kids and their quirks - One for the parents! (59)

Selina Iddon begins by discussing the mission of the podcast and its impact on promoting kindness and mindful language. She emphasizes the importance of nurturing and embracing children's unique quirks and finding a supportive community. The episode addresses common misconceptions about happiness and highlights the significance of instilling respect, gratitude, and balanced confidence in children. Selina explores the role of unconditional love and strategies for handling criticism. The episode concludes with a call to embrace individual quirks and continue spreading kindness.

Why strive for excellence (58)

Selina Iddon delves into the importance of passion in achieving success, exploring how to balance work, family, and personal interests. She offers one actionable step for self-improvement, emphasizing the significance of recognizing one's potential and striving to be outstanding. The episode also underscores the role of self-improvement in spreading kindness.

Beware using the word 'need' (57)

Todays episode is a little different. It is an argument I wrote for my university studies, therefore more academic, formal format than usual for me. It felt great to have the research to back up what I have known for years and researched informally - language is powerful and the words we use make a difference to our well-being and leadership.

How to achieve life balance (56)

Selina Iddon delves into the concept of work-life balance, challenging the illusion of complete happiness. She examines the impact of not living in alignment with one's purpose and introduces the first step toward rebalancing life. The discussion highlights the pitfalls of making someone else your reason for being and the importance of maintaining that reason. Selina explores training for balance by visualizing interconnected aspects of life, stressing the roles of planning, nurturing passions, and discipline. The episode concludes with final thoughts and requests for listeners to reflect on their own balance.

Question: Is to 'try' a 'lie'? (55)

Selina Iddon begins by celebrating milestones and underscores the importance of sharing achievements. She then shifts focus to the power of language, offering a giveaway to listeners. The episode examines the limitations of the word "try" and suggests empowering alternatives for clearer communication and stronger commitments. Selina uses real-life examples to illustrate how "trying" can negatively impact relationships and social interactions. She emphasizes the value of committing fully and learning from failures as a pathway to personal growth.

Habits - Easy or hard way to make and break them (54)

Selina Iddon begins by recapping the importance of habits and their impact on mindset. She explores how language shapes our mindset and the significance of achieving win-win outcomes. The discussion includes maintaining an ideal weight through mindset strategies and the influences of marketing, culture, and environment. Selina emphasizes the importance of building a supportive tribe to foster success. She highlights the role of practicing kindness and fostering connections. The episode wraps up with closing remarks and a goodbye.